tapped out


Life has taken a sudden turn into craziness.  My apologies for not responding to comments or commenting on your blogs.  Today is the first day since last Friday that I have had the opportunity to even venture into blogland for more than a quick look.  I have read a few posts out there but, by and large, I haven’t kept up and I fear I can’t go back…just have to go with now and forward.  Until the wedding is fait accompli, I believe this is how it will be and I just need to roll with it.

Last Saturday morning we left at 6:00 AM for the Poconos region of Pennsylvania (yes, French Twisted Woman, I did think of you, however, I didn’t know for sure if this was your neck of the woods).  The sole purpose of this 12 hour journey was to take Belle Fille to a  couples’ shower given by her fiance’s family.  This is just about the LAST thing I wanted to do since recovering from illness and having just a few weeks left before the wedding.  However, duty called for action and it was done.

I think I am getting old.  Twelve hour road trips are not my thing anymore.  From the start I let Master Bliss and Belle Fille know that it was on them to get us there.  I had a Nook of reading and some magazines to keep me entertained and happy.  Or not.  Apparently I can’t read in the car longer than 20 minutes before I need a 15 minute nap to recover.  I did make a huge dent in “Uncle Tom’s Cabin” by the time we got home but I didn’t finish it as planned.  Master Bliss and I have this dream trip of taking a driving tour of the West.  After this 24hrs in a car over 3 days debacle, I have thrown that dream out the window–somewhere on Hwy. 80 in the middle of Pennsylvania.  My MAX time in-car is 7-8 hours then you better get me out of there if you wish to have any peace in your life.  I think I will be looking into train travel for the Western bound trip of the future.

Despite the “trapped in a car for 12 hrs crankiness” and endless rain, I can say that driving through Pennsylvania is beautiful.  Love those mountains and it made me think of Tennessee.  And the woman we stayed with…well let me just say, she was the epitome of class and graciousness.  We had planned on staying in a hotel but this woman, a dear friend of Belle Fille’s fiance (she was a mentor to him while growing up), insisted that we stay with her.  She lives on a 300 acre working farm that is peppered with relatives that live here and there and run things now.   Her farm-house was charming and clearly identified the woman who lived there…clean, neat, eclectic, hospitable, well-traveled and humble.  In her 75+ years, she has lived abroad and traveled extensively, speaks three languages and is one of the most down to earth persons I have ever met.  Just a gem.  She is coming to the wedding and I am already looking forward to seeing her again.  Guess what?  She had the same trench coat I have!  It made total sense to surprise her with the “perfect” thank you gift…a lovely scarf, bien sur.  This is the idyllic setting we stayed in:

The party was fun and the future in-laws did a nice job with it.  Future MIL decided to have beta-fish(es) as the centerpieces.  Yes, really.  Not sure why and not sure how I felt about it (besides feeling sorry for the little fishies) but I had to twice decline taking one home with me.  She was very insistent about Belle Fille taking one home too.  Since Belle Fille is still in the “people pleasing” stage of life, she acquiesced.  I can’t tell you how hard I laughed when somewhere between Pennsylvania and Ohio the bowl fell over freeing the little Beta on the floor of the back seat.   As it flopped its little life around, freaking Belle Fille out, Master Bliss had to stop the car to “rescue” it from a horrible fate.  There was enough water still in the bowl so it could be revived.  I told Belle Fille that the whole ” forcibly adopting a fish” was no doubt a test to see how her future mothering skills would be and if this situation was an indicator she had better not tell her MIL.  She didn’t find me funny.  But I did!  This is what a party looks like from a fish bowl:


Master Bliss and I did a little exploring, in the rain, on Sunday.  The goal was to get some exercise before getting back in the car to go home on Monday.  This is how rain hiking looks:


We dried off and warmed up here:


It was a lovely little tea house/restaurant in a picturesque town.  I felt like I had traveled back in time about 120 years.  I loved it.

The party Sunday lasted until 10:30/11:00PM with the kiddos and future in-laws coming over afterwards to open gifts (do you understand why I say our hostess was such a gem?  even providing tea and snacks at that late hour…better woman than I).  Before retiring we told our Hostess that we would “just be getting up and going” Monday morning–trying to let her know we didn’t expect any type of breakfast (or pomp and circumstance).  We thought she “got it” but we woke to eggs, bacon, coffee, pancakes–the works.  Unbelievable.

Of course we got to drive home through a snow storm because freak snow storms at the end of April only happen when we have to be on the road for 12 hours (did I mention that already?).  Thankfully, we didn’t encounter any problems and saw just one roll-over.  But it was kind of surreal seeing this…:


…at the end of April.

We got home late, late, late Monday night because we (of course) had to get some groceries and get 300 pictures developed for the party favors we worked on ALL DAY Tuesday and parts of Wednesday morning.  The rest of yesterday was no less taxing…after the party favors were done we had to go shopping for some other wedding paraphernalia, stop by the venue and chat up the help there on what was still needed and by when, and stop by about 12,000 stores looking for the perfect floor mat for Master Bliss’ office area.  Is it any wonder I am still in my pajamas–with no apologies–Thursday morning at 9:24 AM?  I may stay in them all day.  In fact I may not move from this chair at all.

Oh yeah.  The beta fish died yesterday.

~~Mistress Bliss~~

P.S.  My last word is one of advice.  Should you ever be invited to an event, wedding or otherwise, that requires a RSVP, please send the @#$& card back.  Merci, lovelies.


Filed under family matters, manners and etiquette, traveling

41 responses to “tapped out

  1. I totally hear you about being tapped out Bliss, lately things have been just ridiculous and it’s all I can do to stay afloat! Glad to hear your trip went great, I totally LOL’d about Belle Fille still being in the people pleasing phase of life – I stopped doing that a year or two after I got married and I think people are finally getting it now….LOL…

    Rest up!

  2. Bliss–I am with you!! looks like a wonderful shower but yeah–12 hour trip??? No way!
    Darling daughter is hanging by the stress thread and texting me constantly. May 20th can’t get herre soon enough!!

  3. What a lovely place Pennsylvania is. I’m with you on train travel. Not sure about fish as table decor; definitely don’t agree with pushing pet parenthood on anyone. I think you deserve to chill in PJ for as long as you like after all that!

  4. What a wonderful journey you toke me on here .. but I could have been without the snow *smile … Sorry, about the beautiful fish – have tried fish in a bowl too, they say that they will go mentally ill from just swim in a circle all the time and dies – tried to beak the bowl up with plants .. but they die anyhow. That tearoom is just in my taste too.
    In my age… I’m going to more funerals then weddings * laughter
    Thanks for the ride.

    • Oh, I am glad you enjoyed the journey. Aren’t tea rooms the best? When we traveled through Scotland we tried to go to one of the famed Willow Tea Rooms but never made it…well, we made it but they were closing as we arrived. Still bummed to this day. ~~Bliss

      • It’s a great post about your journey … and I liked it very much. Tearooms is back in fashion here too .. even if we are a coffee drinking nation. Nice!

  5. Is there a limit to the length of a comment? I’ll make it a run-on paragraph list so it will seem shorter. Seriously though, lovely post – thanks for sharing. 1) Thank you for mentioning me! From the picture of the restaurant, it looks like downtown where my sister lives, so you were about a 30 minute drive away from me. If you come to visit the in-laws again, we’ll have to meet for lunch and bring your hostess. She sounds wonderful. 2) Keep your plans for the trip out West. Just do it when you have at least three or four weeks, so you can relax and only drive 4-5 hours a day, stopping to do something fun and touristy every afternoon. 3) I am sorry for the loss of your fish. Nothing else to say about fishbowl centerpieces. 4) Love, love, love the picture of you and the Master! You both look so happy and French. 5) Glad to know that you made it home safely through the snowstorm. 6) Stay in your pajamas as long as you like. 7) Thanks for the reminder, but I am a rule follower and I always RSVP. Especially since RSVP is short for Répondez S’il Vous Plaît which is French for Respond If You Please, and being French Twisted Woman, how would that look if I ignored a request in French?

    • No comment limits here. 1) You are welcome…can’t believe we were that close to where you live! Next time! 2) I like your West trip suggestions–well thought out. 3) Agreed. 4) Merci beaucoup. We are happy and I am French. 5) Me too. 6) I tried. 7) Bravo! ~~Bliss

  6. Oh Bliss, you must be knackered! Still, it sounds like a wonderful trip and you got to meet and stay with that lovely lady. I love the photo of you and the Mister, you make a great looking couple. How ridiculous that future MIL forced the fish on Belle Fille for such a long journey. Poor fish! You’ll be strung out until the wedding is over – but I’m sure it’ll be worth it, to see your girl waltz happily down the aisle. Best of luck with all your plans!

  7. Oh Bliss… you need to rest!
    And don’t try to catch up on the blogs. That happened to me at Easter and I had to stop myself from stressing about it. I realized people can’t be at this 24/7 365 days/yr. Just go from the day you are ready and don’t look back. Trust me.
    I’m glad that long trip brought you to a lovely place.

  8. Lara

    All I can say is: my goodness!, fabulous scarf!, and stay in the pjs with popcorn!

  9. A fun post to read, but it sounds exhausting to live! :-) Yep, I agree, stay in your pj’s and finish Uncle Tom’s Cabin–one of my favorite books.

  10. Juhli

    I laughed and then took a deep breath and thought of the wedding and pre-wedding things awaiting me next year on the other side of the country LOL. Keep telling us the lessons learned – this future mother of the groom needs advice! Would love to meet your hostess as she sounds very charming and interesting and the shower actually sounds lovely.

    • Oh, oh, Juhli…helping to plan one from that far away–eek gads. I am not sure how many lessons I will be able to share but I do recommend not leaving cross country trips to the last couple of weeks before the big day. ~~Bliss

  11. Live animal as a centerpiece? Tsk! Tsk! Kudos to you for refusing. No one works a scarf like you darling.

  12. Lovely post Bliss and gorgeous images as always :-)

  13. I definitely do not envy you the wedding planning, having survived one for my youngest daughter just six months ago. Sounds like your trip was most adventurous!

  14. Ellen

    First off, I have made that same trip more times than I can count since my in-laws and my sister live in eastern PA. I think I could do it with my eyes closed. Many of those trips were during snow falls as well.
    Secondly, I am all over the RSVPs. I’m pretty sure my responses break some land speed records. That’s how my mama raised me.

  15. LOL!
    Bliss, you are about the funniest JCPenny model I’ve ever met!
    Thanks for the laugh! What about that snow storm?!

  16. Hi,
    Sounds like you had a wonderful time, and the farm looks gorgeous, a lovely place to stay and to walk around as well.
    I love the tea room/restaurant what a nice relaxing atmosphere it looks to have.

  17. Bliss, you and your beloved look so gorgeous, and you so chic. Pennsylvania is beautiful as is the coffee shop. I love American scenery! I have one word to say to you about car trips where you can be antisocial (i.e. more than two people in the car) – audiobooks on your iPod with earphones. Your writing is always so funny; as I’ve said before, I love your dry sense of humour.

    • I miss you, Fiona! Yes, there is an abundance of beautiful scenery in America…as there is everywhere. Great tip about on the audiobooks–never thought about doing that before but usually it just Master Bliss and I. But I will have to try it sometime. I am happy you “get” my humour. ; ) ~~Bliss

  18. Thank goodness you didn’t have to share the car with two flopping fish…I can just imagine that scenario. I will never, every do a 12 hour road trip again. The last time I did, I was crying and begging to stop for the night. My husband now knows better and actually likes the way we travel. You definitely need some me time but I don’t think it is in your near future.

    • I admired how you and hubby did your last trip to FL. I think in the future we will have to do this method. I like traveling by car because I love seeing the scenery but that much time in one is taxing. I kind of felt like a poor little Beta fish trapped in a bowl…I was ready to jump out too. ~~Bliss

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